#growth (This note is a [[Work in Public]].) It isn't enough to say "stop doing X". We have to _replace_ the negative behavior with a different behavior, or that void will go back to being filled with the negative behavior by [[Atomic Habits|default]]. This is partly why statements that say "When you do X, I feel Y. Instead, I would rather you do Z." work incredibly well for changing the way other people act towards you. ### Other Notes [[Rewrite Your Stories|Rewrite Your Stories]]