#growth The most important kind of trust is trust in ourself. It is, quite literally, the most powerful thing you can do for yourself. A significant part of this blog talks about ways to build trust with yourself. Being selfish makes us trustworthy. When you hear Glennon Doyle say "I wanted [my kids] to learn enough about sports to avoid embarrassing themselves in gym class but not enough to become talented and ruin my weekends [because I have to cart them all over the country]." you laugh and you trust her because she's speaking her truth. When we express what we really want and aren't afraid of being "selfish" (which, just like the word "selfless", I hate) we are being [[Genuine, Authentic, Consistent|genuinely authentic and consistent]] and this makes us trustworthy. ### Confidence We all know what confidence is. We feel it at times, and we feel a lack of it at other times. We can spot a confident person with ease. But what is _confidence_? It's an idea that is hard to pin down. Oxford defines confidence as _"a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities"_. But what is that _self-assurance_, and where does it come from? Confidence, at its core, is _trust in yourself_. That's it. Confident people trust themselves. It is one of the most empowering feelings in the world. The followup question is, "how can we cultivate trust in ourselves?". Much of this blog is dedicated to answering that question. ### Resumes Resumes are, fundamentally, a demonstration of trust. When you apply for a job, you are saying "I can do this work, and I want to do it". When an employer reads a resume, they are using it to determine if they can trust you to do the work and work as a part of their company. Once you view a resume from this standpoint, they are much much easier to write and fine tune. The goal of writing a resume changes from "summarizing what I have done in the past" to "demonstrating that the reader can trust me to do the job and work at their company". The nuance is slight, but it clarifies the language and style you want to use. ##### Related Notes: [[The Power of Intention|The power of intention]]